We all have blind spots we didn't know were there.
In a time where women have access to men around the world through online dating and social media apps, the dating market has never been more brutal.
With more and more ‘strong independent women’ believing they don’t need a man, this means you have to be on top of your game.
Now more than ever.
The good news is, most guys aren’t even trying to better themselves.
There’s never been a better opportunity if you’re ready to put in the work to set yourself up for sexual success.
Here’s my 5 Keys To Be The Man Every Woman Wants:
"You're such an asshole!!!"
These are the exact words girls would say to my childhood friend, Eric.
He's always been overweight and very average looking, but he radiates a confidence that attracts girls like bees to honey.
So why do girls call him an asshole?
Because, despite his disadvantages, he acts like he’s God’s gift to women. His mindset of “If this one doesn’t want me, I’ll just go find another one..” makes them crave his time & attention even more!
There’s literally hundreds of millions of potential partners for you. Putting too much weight on any single interaction with a female is a bad idea. This is one of the counterintuitive things, but the one who cares less, wins.
Most importantly, he never puts women on a pedestal. I’m not saying to go around being a dick, but if you don’t believe you’re the man, why should anyone else?
The bottom line is, if you want to get your dating life to a point where you have options, it starts with your mindset.
My 65 pound weight loss journey started in 2013. As the weight dropped off and I started building muscle, I immediately noticed a difference in how girls treated me.
It’s like I went from being invisible to what felt like all eyes on me.
All of a sudden that visceral/animalistic attraction started happening and girls made it super easy for me to have sex with them.
Females are very visual and pay attention to detail when it comes to a man’s appearance. I don’t know what world you live in, but if your mindset is “but she should want me for me...” - good luck with that.
No, you don’t need to look like Brad Pitt, but making upgrades to your body, personal style, and overall appearance goes a long way.
On a scale of 1-10 (your best, most attractive self), where do you fall?
Here’s a few upgrades to instantly make you more attractive:
Whiten your teeth - even if your teeth aren’t perfect, having white teeth instantly makes you more attractive.
Stay well groomed & clean - an example I like to use is, if you’re only shaving once/week, step it up to twice/week.
Upgrade your wardrobe - the key here is clothes that make you feel like a million bucks. I believe in quality over quantity. Doesn’t mean you need to go out and spend a million bucks.
You could be the nicest guy in the world, but if a girl looks at you and can tell you don’t respect yourself enough to make the necessary upgrades to your appearance, you won’t even get the opportunity to show her how awesome you are.
We’ve all heard the saying “stay on your purpose”, because it’s crucial. There’s very few things that attract women more than a guy who’s going somewhere. Period.
Have a vision for your life, with specific goals and timelines to accomplish those goals. Anything that doesn’t align with your vision becomes a distraction. If you have the time to sit around texting a girl all day, it communicates to her that you’re a low value guy.
The result of you focusing on your goals and leveling up in life is less time for bullshit, which increases the value of your time.
4. Social Life
Have a social life.
Get out of the damn house!
If I said money doesn’t matter, I’d be lying.
Is it everything?
No (there’s plenty of guys who make bank and lack the social skills to get and retain the quality of women they want), but it amplifies everything else you do and gives you the ability to live life on your own terms which is also very attractive.
With that said, you’re not doing all this for women.
You’re doing it for yourself!
Women are a byproduct of you becoming a better man in all areas of life.
We all have blind spots we didn’t know were there.
One of my favorite sayings is “You don’t know what you don’t know…”
You don't need to have all 5 keys outlined here, but just a few simple tweaks can 10x your dating results.
Do what you need to do to put yourself in a position to WIN.
About the Author
Jay Green is an entrepreneur, dj, producer, men's lifestyle coach and artist who's passionate about helping you create a lifestyle you love.